Women learn through mentoring.

My coaching client squealed in delight as she recounted how her interview had gone better than she could have imagined, that she had been offered the new role before she even reached home. She did an obligatory hip wiggle and a solo high five to no one in particular. When I pressed her for what had made the difference in her approach this time, she had said that she benefitted from having two very different mindsets as a sounding board. Richard and Leila, her two inhouse mentors were truly instrumental in getting her moving on up.

A number of researchers such as Josselson* have underscored that women’s development is linked to their sense of self in relation to others, rather than as individuals operating independently. This was all the more evident during this coaching conversation. We were experiencing informal learning.

Why do you care how women learn? So many reasons. SO you can inspire the women working on your team, so you can gain clarity on who you are, so you can be a better leader, friend, partner, parent, daughter, niece etc. so you can thrive and ultimately have the life you want and know deep down you deserve.